One of the books that open my appetite for reading was How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie. I was about 19 and somehow this book ended up in my lap. I remember that it was then when I realize that the people can teach you so much. Of course, my mom always told me so but...she is MOM :). Dale Carnegie is what you call the first trainer, since he wanted to give people an opportunity to self develop after they finished school. So he started classes for them, but since he had no manuals he wrote several. The manuals became later amazing books open to anyone. With an easy narrative and friendly style are easy to read and are what you call about common sense but not common practice. The book that introduces DC to me was written in 36 but is still very much up to date, with examples that can be very well got out of our day to day life.
So when I got the chance to attend due to a lucky post on Social Media at one of their open courses about Developing Personal Leadership I took it with both hands. In 3 days I learn a tone of things about, force to face my inner fears, break barriers and make a plan in order to get what I want in life. There are so many things I can tell you about it, but in order to give you a full extent of knowledge you have to take the class for your self because every one of us has another learning experience based on its own background.
The things I got home with me are still making me improve my self every day, they also damp me in a black area of rediscover and accept the things I can't change and try to get over it in order to embrace my beautiful desirable future. 2 golden books with DC's rules got in my hands, one went to my mom, and the other one went to Madlene - somehow with this way they were part of my experience.
In the end I share with you are the principles that stuck with me along time from How to win Friends and Influence People:
Become a Friendlier Person
Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Give honest, sincere appreciation.
Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Become genuinely interested in other people.
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest
and most important sound in any language.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.